Transcending addiction and redefining recovery: Jacki Hillios at TEDxBoulder

 

Why are some able to transcend their addiction while others are not? What do people really need to escape the shame of their addiction and achieve sustained recovery? Jacki’s talk focuses on answering these questions and demonstrates how resilience of the human spirit intersects with social contextual factors to set the stage for those struggling with addiction to choose a pathway to health.

 

We here at Angel Face Foundation also believe that addiction doe’s not necessary define the addict. It is a treatable disease in which anyone if they truly desire can break the chains. We have meet and also from personal experiences know this to be factual. 

 

 

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Heroin at Home: Rise of Opiate Use

Published on Jul 30, 2013

A resurgence of heroin use, complicated by prescription pain-killer abuse, has dramatically risen in the last few years. The consequences, including a number of overdose deaths, have devastated a range of communities across Minnesota. This half-hour documentary explores some of the history, science, and social factors of opiate addiction. The voices of those in treatment and recovery are woven into analysis from some of Minnesota’s leading thinkers on the deadly rise of heroin and opiate use in the state. Co-produced by the Minnesota Department of Human Services and Twin Cities Public Television.

In the end some of the addicts vent and share that they hope family members and friends would understand and get educated about this epidemic and disease, we here at Angel Face Foundation share their wish also, this would help everyone through the journey towards recovery.

Please leave a comment above if you wish, peace and Gods speed :-)

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Meeting great people that beat addiction…….

 

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Just got back from the GYM and it really has been helping me out a lot. After all the years of my past drug abuse and beating up my body and mind I do believe I owe it to myself. I actually get a high off my workouts and help me deal with stress from this screwed up world!

 

Now I have come to learn that it is totally up to me to stop playing the victim role and take charge of my own life. This means no more complaining and accusing others for my own short comings. I am my own master of my own realm and I do have the ability to see who fits into it.

 

As I sit here again at McDonald’s using their Wi-Fi , it has been about three weeks since I have been in here. The reason why I do bring this up is while here you sometimes meet interesting people that do fit in ! And as I was here three weeks ago, I was in my usual spot in the back. In comes walking this young lady with a big smile on her face as are eyes lock up. She went to the front and got something to eat and then she came to the back and sat down at the table next to me.

 

As she was eating we begin to talk and I must say it was quit pleasant. She was charming and I felt quit comfortable with her, I got the same in return when it came to her. We started to just talk about what is going on and how crazy things are now. You see there is a T.V. In the back here with C.N.N. On 24 hours. So we saw things the same and this is how we started to talk even more about this journey we are all on.

 

I found out that she is an addict that has been sober now and is very comfortable talking to me about it. I also shared with her about my passed and about Angel Face Foundation. I gave here my domain name and she said it was a great cause and if she can help in any way that if she had the time she would love to pay it forward.

 

This I felt was Divine and she was God sent. She had a long journey just as my friend Angel Face. This was great to meet another person, (young lady) that has been there and has defeated her spell of addiction!

 

I was finding myself on a high just from meeting her and it was very rewarding to have meet her. After a while she had to leave because she was working, gave me her contact information and we hug and she left. I do wish her nothing but the best in her journey and I am sure she will do just find. I can tell you she is a champion and has a purpose now in her life, this is a beautiful thing to witness in someones life and journey.

 

So how about you, have you had enough of this endless cycles of lies and death? Have you wish you could break it? Well you can, and others are doing it right now, even as I type this out. If others are doing it so can you, put yourself around the right people that care and are willing to give you the encouragement and support that is needed! Yeah it is your battle, but you really don’t have to do it all on your own.

 

Leave your comment above if you wish. Peace towards your journey :-)

 

 

 

 

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Stop living in denial, grow and move forward towards acceptance.

What you conquer

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
―Ann Landers

You are changing.  The universe around you is changing.  Just because something was right for you in the past doesn’t mean it still is.  This could be a relationship, a job, a home, a habit, etc.

It happens to you slowly as you grow.  You discover more about who you are and what you want out of life, and then you realize there are deliberate changes you need to make to keep up with the changes happening around you and within you.

The lifestyle you’ve been living no longer fits.  The specific people and routines you’ve known forever no longer align with your values.  So you cherish all the memories, but find yourself letting go and moving on.

If you’re currently dealing with this process you may feel a bit awkward, and that’s OK.  This feeling is normal.  I’ve been right there with you on more occasions than I can count.

Reasons to Let Go and Move On

  1. Someone’s negativity is rubbing off on you. – You are the average of the people you spend the most time with.  In other words, who you spend your time with has a great impact on the person you are and the person you become.  If you are around cynical and negative people all the time, you will become cynical and negative.
  2. You have grown apart from someone. – Sad but true, no matter what you do or how much you explain yourself, some people will gradually evolve away from your core values.  As time goes on they will prove over and over again that they are committed to misunderstanding you and clashing with your needs.
  3. You are truly unhappy with your current circumstances. – It’s always better to be struggling at something you love than succeeding diligently at something you despise.  (Read Quitter.)
  4. Your goals and needs have changed. – What was right for you then is not necessarily right for you now.  Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather realizing that you have changed, and then learning to start over with your new truth.
  5. Fear is holding you back. – Part of letting go and moving on is facing the fears and disappointments of the past that are binding your spirit.
  6. You catch yourself living in the past. – If all you do is attempt to relive something that has already happened, you’re missing out.  The mental space you create by letting go of things that are already behind you gives you the ability to fill the space with something fresh and fun.
  7. An old grudge is still hurting you. – Holding on to the weight of anger, resentment and hatred will not only hold you back, but also block your present blessings and opportunities.  You’ve just got to drop some things to move forward.
  8. You aren’t learning anything new. – Living is learning.  All positive change is the end result of learning.  If you aren’t learning, you’re simply dying slowly.

One Small Example of Letting Go

We had been friends since grade school when I finally told one of my childhood friends, “Enough is enough!”  Although we had basically grown up together, we were now on different planets when it came to our goals and dreams.  He believed there was one right way to do things – go to college, get a degree, get a job, and dedicate every waking moment of your life to it.  I had other plans.

Although I did get my degree and a job after college, in our free time Angel and I started writing articles on the blog you’re reading now.  As the blog’s reach grew, my friend discredited our success.  Whenever I shared one of our small success stories, he would say something negative like, “Whatever.  It’s just a blog.  I have one too.”

When Angel quit her job to work on the blog full-time, my friend basically told me we’d fail.  “That’s ridiculous!  Angel had a good job,” he said.  “You’re just playing with fire in this economy if you ask me.”  To which I replied, “I’m not asking you.”

That was the beginning of the end of our story as friends.  Years later, our relationship is now a mere shadow of what it was and my life is honestly far brighter for it.  Letting my friend go wasn’t easy, but it was necessary for my own well-being and growth.

Ways to Let Go and Move On

Holding on is like believing that there’s only a past; letting go and moving on is knowing in your heart that there’s a bright future ahead.  Let’s take a look at eight ways to design the latter.

  1. Accept the truth and be thankful. – To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and grow.  It’s the acceptance of everything you have, everything you once had, and the possibilities that lie ahead.  It’s all about finding the strength to embrace life’s changes, to trust your intuition, to learn as you go, to realize that every experience has value, and to continue taking positive steps forward.  (This process is something Angel and I discuss in the Adversity chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
  2. Distance yourself for a while. – Sometimes you need to take several steps back in order to gain clarity on a situation.  The best way to do this is to simply take a break and explore something else for a while.  Why?  So you can return to where you started and see things with a new set of eyes.  And the people there may see you differently too.  Returning where you started is entirely different from never leaving.
  3. Focus only on what can be changed. – Realize that not everything in life is meant to be modified or perfectly understood.  Live, let go, learn what you can and don’t waste energy worrying about the things you can’t change.  Focus exclusively on what you can change, and if you can’t change something you don’t like, change the way you think about it.  Review your options and then re-frame what you don’t like into a starting point for achieving something better.
  4. Claim ownership and full control of your life. – No one else is responsible for you.  You are in full control of your life so long as you claim it and own it.  Through the grapevine, you may have learned that you should blame your parents, your teachers, your mentors, the education system, the government, etc., but never to blame yourself.  Right?  It’s never, ever your fault… WRONG!  It’s always your fault, because if you want to change, if you want to let go and move on with your life, you’re the only person who can make it happen.
  5. Focus inward. – It’s important to make a difference in the world.  Yes, it’s important to help people, but you have to start with yourself.  If you’re looking outside yourself to find where you fit in or how you can create an impact, stop and look inside yourself instead.  Review who you already are, the lifestyle you’re currently living, and what makes you feel alive.  Then nurture these things and make positive adjustments until your current life can no longer contain them, forcing you to grow and move beyond your current circumstances.
  6. Change the people around you. – Some people come into your life just to strengthen you, so you can move on without them.  They are supposed to be part of your memory, not your destiny.  The bottom line is that when you have to start compromising your happiness and your potential for the people around you, it’s time to change the people around you.  It’s time to join local meet-ups, attend conferences, network online, and find a more supportive tribe.
  7. Take a chance. – When life sets you up with a challenge, there’s a reason for it; it’s meant to test your courage and willingness to make a change and take a chance on something new.  There’s no point in denying that things are different now, or being fearful of the next step.  The challenge will not wait even if you hesitate.  Life only moves in one direction – forward.  This challenge is your chance to let go of the old and make way for the new.  Your destiny awaits your decision.  (Read The Untethered Soul.)
  8. Focus on today. – You can decide right now that negative experiences from your past will not predict your future.  Figure out what the next positive step is, no matter how small or difficult, and take it.  Ultimately, the only thing you can ever really do is to keep moving forward.  Take that leap without hesitation, without looking back.  Simply forget the past, look straight ahead and forge toward the future.

The floor is yours…

What are you holding on to that’s holding you back?  What’s the first step you need to take to let it go?  Share your thoughts with us by leaving a comment above.

 

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After More Than A Year……

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Well it has been a little while since I wrote and since then I have had a few things happen in my life. I had to get a hotel room for a week because where I was staying at she had family come in town for a while. So I went back out to the Pike! The place that I stayed in was the old Treasure Coast Inn, which was closed by the State for all the activities that went on there. You know drugs, prostitution, pimps, johns & truckers! This area in Fort Pierce Florida seems to bring it all in.

I choose this place because of the cost was with in my rage and they completely remodeled it and I must say did a great job of cleaning it up. No more of the same old that use to be there.

The Pike activities still going on just different girls and has sifted over to other hotels. The place I was staying at has zero tolerance for it and you will get a visit to your door and one hour to get your stuff out. This is what I heard from the staff there. They have change the name from Treasure Coast Inn to, 3 Palms Hotel.

Well the week I was out at the Pike gave me the chance to meet up with some people who I knew from out there. One was Granny which is a friend and I am always glad to see, and the other was a dude that we all call Peanut! I keep in contact with Granny, she is good people and just in a hard spot right now in her journey. If I had the funds right now she would not be out there now.

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I one day decided to take a walk around and went to the Mobile gas station were the Dunkin Donuts is with the tables out front were people gather. While I was there this is when I meet up with Peanut. He ask me, “were the hell have I been at in jail or what,” since he has not seen me for long. I told him, “that I have been out in Texas for a while.” He then said, “hell it has been a while that Angel Face has had a baby and the State took it away from her.”

He then went on to say, “Robert you was the best thing for her out here!” I was surprise that he told me that and it kinda made my day. We started to talk more about her and then I said, “ no disrespect, I really don’t want to talk about her it is her battle and all what I can do is encourage her if this is what she wants!” And as soon as I said that, Peanut said, “load and behold, speaking of the devil look who just pulled up!”

I look up and there was this big white rig pulling in and I saw Angel Face in the passenger side of the truck! I told Peanut, “ I am out of here, for as much as would love to see her I do not want to be around her as long as she is with him.” What I mean by this is I knew things were rough and heard no good news and I did not want to be in any way apart too it! So I got up and walk away as doing so Peanut said “too late she already seen you!” I still walk away, and it was very hard for me to do but I did.

I saw Granny later on and she told me that Angel Face was in town and that she saw me. Well I did ask her for more details and she really did not have any, but said that she will be back around and that she was happy to see me.

Well that was earlier in the week now it is the fourth of July and as I was walking from the B.P. Truck Station, I saw this big white rig pull up about 20 feet away from me as I was walking back to the 3 Palms Hotel. I looked up and once again I saw Angel Face closer this time waving and smiling at me as they were pulling up. It was early fireworks! I went around the backside and still kept walking towards the hotel, and then he started his rig and pulled out in front of me and hopped out.

He ask me, “are you Robert?” And I said “no!” He said, “you are Robert,” and I said, “you don’t know me and I don’t know you!” He then went on to say, “ I don’t like the pictures you have of my wife on the Internet!” At that I responded, “what the hell are you talking about?” He then shout out to her to come out of the truck. He was very angry and aggressive and also scared at the same time. He felt as if he had to prove something to her. He pick up some stones while doing this my face had a big smile on it and he thought I was smiling at him but in reality, I was smiling at my friend Angel Face, which at this time was out of the truck and screaming at him to leave me alone and to get back into the truck.

At that moment I fully understood that the bond that I have with Angel Face is still there and this is what he fears in many ways which is sad. Everything and every time when this man is around it is just bad news and I am sure my friend can do much better than him and she has but she don’t quit see it I guess, or maybe she does?

For that brief moment, all the feelings towards this young lady came back, in fact they never really did leave just the high of the moment was out of this world! This man may control my friend with drugs, but I will be damn if he can control me in any way. She is worth it to me and he just wants me to forget about her. All what I can say about this is, “that dog ain’t gonna hunt!”

I will keep loving her even long after my heart stop beating, this is just how I am wired and what I am made of. So as I write you this post today I am still feeling the high from that moment and will carry it over to this cause, this Foundation that I have named after my friend. Yes life is a cycle and after more than a year since I heard from her this was heaven for me and still this day I do thank God for bringing her into my life, even for only a moment.

You can add your comments if you wish, Peace towards your journey :-)

 

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Happy Fourth Of July

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We here at Angel Face Foundation would like to wish you a safe and Happy Fourth of July :-)

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Warriors of the heart

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I am a renegade,
into battle for the day
when they are made.

I have drawn the line,
cross it and see what
happens this time.

Warrior of the heart
this world will never
tear us apart.

As I focus on my plan,
timing and strategies
digging in were
I make my stand.

Surrender is not a choice,
Spartans way always
better to die on my feet,
then slaves on my knees.
In the end we shall rejoice!

Warrior of the heart
this world will never
tear us apart

I laugh at your arrows,
even if they do block out the sun,
we shall battle in the shade.
Enduring all pain and sorrows.

For my people, Queen and wife,
I will sacrifice everything
even my life.

Warrior of the heart
not even in death
this world will
tear us apart.

Written, by Robert Christopher Mergupis © copyright 2014

 

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